Welcome to Shore
If it’s your first time visiting Shore, welcome! This is a safe, anonymous space for young people who are worried about their own or someone else’s sexual thoughts, feelings or behaviour.
Take a look at our video below to learn more about how Shore can help you, or a young person you know.
How to build a good life
The Good Lives Model tells us that everyone needs to feel satisfied in a few different areas of their life to feel good. Take a look at our video to learn more about the Good Lives Model. You can also work through the information in more detail below.
For more information please visit our page on what is the good lives model.
How to deal with difficult emotions
You might be struggling with your emotions if you’re worried about harmful sexual behaviour, whether it’s your own or someone else’s. Here are some ways you can try to manage your feelings. It’s important to try a few out and see what works best for you. Everybody is different and different ways of coping will work better for some people than others.
For more information please visit our page on how do I manage difficult emotions.
What to do if an adult you know has got into trouble for their sexual behaviour
If someone you know has been arrested for their sexual behaviour, you may feel upset or confused. You’re not alone – hearing others’ experiences could help. Listen to Deana and Luke’s story below.
For more information, check out our page on what to do if an adult you know has been arrested for their sexual behaviour.
Understanding guilt and shame
If you’ve done something you regret, you may be struggling with feelings or guilt and shame – but what’s the difference and how can it impact you?
Watch the video below to understand what you can do to overcome these negative feelings.
Check out our page on dealing with regrets about harmful sexual behaviour to learn more.
What to do if you’re in trouble with the police
If your sexual behaviour means that the police have got involved, you probably have lots of questions:
- What could happen to me?
- How long will it take before I find out what the police are going to do?
- Can anyone help me?
These questions are really common. Below, you’ll find information and advice to help you understand the police process so you know what to expect.
Find out more information here.
What to do if you’re worried after sharing a nude
Have you sent someone a nude image, or been sent one, but regretted it afterwards? Remember you are not alone and there are steps you can take to regain control.
For more information on what these steps are and how you can seek support, please see the animation below and visit our page on what to do if you’ve shared a nude, or been sent one.
Understanding the impact of pornography
It can sometimes be hard to recognise that watching pornography can have a negative impact on us.
If you’re worried about your pornography use, watch Theo’s story and see what steps he took to get help.
To find out more information about pornography and how it can affect you by visiting our pages on pornography.
Enthusiastic consent
Understanding consent is about more than simply making sure someone does not say no – it means ensuring they actively say yes and clearly want to take part throughout.
The video below explores the importance of enthusiastic consent and highlights key factors to consider when seeking and giving consent in any situation.
You can learn more about enthusiastic consent here.
Understanding sexual thoughts towards younger children
If you’ve had sexual thoughts about younger children, you may feel confused, worried or ashamed. You may not know what to do when this happens but know that you are not alone in dealing with this.
To find out more information, visit our page on what to do if you’ve had sexual thoughts about younger children.
Talking to friend about their sexual behaviour
If you’re worried about a friend’s sexual behaviour and want to help them but are unsure how, then you have come to the right place. But know that you don’t have to manage this on your own. As well as supporting your friend, it’s also important to take care of yourself.
For information on how you can help and where to go for further guidance, please see the animation below and visit our page on what to do if you’re worried about a friend’s sexual behaviour.